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Everyone you owe a reply, sorted by how long it's been — with a warm opener ready to copy, because it's never actually too late.
Heads up: your pile lives only in this browser — Safari can wipe it after a while away, so download it if you'd cry about losing it. Names and notes never leave your device.
Because the longer a message sits, the bigger it feels — until a quick "ha, yes!" starts to feel like it needs an apology essay first. That's not rudeness. That's avoidance math: the dread grows with the delay, so the delay grows with the dread. Lots of ADHD brains run this loop.
The way out is boring and kind: short message, no essay, sent today. Almost nobody answers "how dare you take three weeks." They answer "omg hi!!"
Do this now: copy the opener for the person at the top of your pile and send it before you can negotiate with yourself. One message. The rest of the pile can wait.
If the dread is the loud part, try the RSD first aid kit